Why caring for your inner self pays big dividends


a little solitude goes a long productive way

I took this week off for the March Break. I could have busted it all week, working out, doing extra work, getting things done and yes, while I needed to take care of some areas of my life and business, I chose to take it easy with it all.

I didn’t work out once, I got extra rest, I went at my pace, I took time out to watch Moonlight at 4 in the afternoon, I met friends for lunch…the key was I didn’t do what I normally do, which is push it every day…

My daily routine is tiring to be honest and a bit boring, up early to meditate, journal, work out a little, then hustle off to work, come home a bit tired from the day and usually stay in at night, unless there is a meeting or event to go to…then I come home make dinner, chat with a friend, check emails and Facebook messages and chill a bit…you know the drill.

I realized this week, I need to change my routine. It’s killing me. Yes maybe physically, but more emotionally, spiritually, energetically and creatively!

I believe that if you practice good self-care it can pay big dividends!

Here are a few ideas for you to consider and lessons I learned this week:

1. Ease up on the personal deadlines you set for yourself. What is that old expression? “Rome was not built in day”! Who sets deadlines on tasks at home, at work, in your business? Chances are it is probably you. Ease up and allow more time to get things done, it will accomplish 2 key things, one is give you more time to think about what you need to do and then to bring that thinking and strategy in, so you actually do a better job and that you’re not rushing the task or work. Secondly it will put you more at ease with getting things done and you won’t be so stressed out about the tasks at hand.

2. Allow more you time in your day. You can do this easily. Cut back on time spent on social media, or carve out a little piece of time just for you and or learn to combine tasks. Read while you’re on the TTC, or read while you have lunch, or workout as you watch the ball game, you get the idea…combine tasks. Or take 30-45 minutes a day for you. You need to ask your family, spouse, and or kids for permission to do this…but a little time to re-charge yourself is vital for your creativity and energy levels.

“The secret to becoming more productive is not managing your time but your energy.” Michael Hyatt-speaker, coach, productivity expert

3. Allow time to have a nap. A nap has so many benefits…and great people like Einstein, Churchill, Lyndon B. Johnson, J.F. Kennedy, Eleanor Roosevelt, Thomas Edison and country music singer Gene Autry all carved out nap times.

The National Sleep Foundation suggests a short nap of twenty to thirty minutes “for improved alertness and performance without leaving you feeling groggy or interfering with nighttime sleep.”

A nap reduces heart disease, re-energizes you, improves productivity and helps you relax and better able to get things done. Now you don’t want to be sleeping for hours during the day, but 20-30 minutes for sure.

4. Listen to your heart. If you listen to your brain and it’s crazy 30-50,000 thoughts it has all day, you will tire out and go crazy after a while. Slow it down at some point during the day (10 minutes to meditate) and tune into your heart. Your heart knows better…tune in and listen to it more. Try it this week in fact, try and quiet the mind and connect with your heart…what is it saying?

5. Connect with your inner child more often. If you’ve done any form of psychotherapy, listening to or talking to your inner child can be invaluable! I did this just before getting fired from a job I had 15 years ago. I had a dialogue with my inner 9-10 year old and he was in fear of the repercussions of losing that job. I as the adult had to assure him that we’d be okay…(I was assuring myself) and to hold your head high through this process…

We had to face the boss the next day and she was not very warm and fuzzy…so after I talked to my inner child about things being okay, he then said…”If the boss is really mean, can we pull down our pants tomorrow (the firing meeting) and chuck a moon at her”…I laughed at my inner child, and agreed that if she was really mean, we would!

Well, that didn’t happen…but what did happen is in the meeting the next day, I summoned up my inner child, when my former boss asked, “What plans do you have next”? I replied, “I don’t know, I did some inner child work before this and I wasn’t expecting to be fired, I have no plans right now”. What happened was a miracle, not only did I get fired, (which was the outcome I wanted, so I could have E.I. money coming in)…but she kept me on part-time, 2-3 days a month until the end of August (I got fired April 19th), I had some work to go to for a few more months.

I worked through my fears by talking to and listening to my inner child. When I went to work and knew I was about to be let go. I went for a jog in my neighbourhood, wore my best suit and went in proudly.

Within 4 months of that firing meeting, I had launched my coaching/teaching business and a little radio show I hosted and produced for 7+ years!

6. My last tip is to allow yourself time to just veg out! To me that means not taking a shower until 3 pm…being lazy, or taking time with things. You need the downtime, you cannot be going all the time. It is crazy. It is like driving your car with your foot only on the gas pedal, sometimes you have to break and just be still!

Your life is like that.

So when you see an ad from a personal growth expert to live your best life, make 6 figures, do, do do! Stop and remember life isn’t about all that. There are ebbs and flows. You cannot be up, up, up all the time. You need time to heal, mourn losses (be it a job, a friendship that wanes, a dream that dies), time to think, to plan, to just veg out and cave into being totally lazy…to reflect, to then re-energize so you can then have the strength to take it to the next level.

Make it a great week!

I hope these lessons helped.



David is an author, business coach and facilitator, he works with the City of Toronto, heading up an entrepreneur training program with inner city youth and adults, he is also the former host/producer and creator of the Small Business Big Ideas Show, a radio show heard weekly for over 9 years. He has 2 books, one called Bust Out Ignite your inner entrepreneur and the other is called The Weekly 3- 3 rock solid ideas to business and life success!


David has taught thousands over the years in both the non-profit and for profit sectors and has coached hundreds of start-ups to make those important first steps. He specializes in teaching the 8 Keys to Success, How I got to Kiss the Stanley Cup and his new keynote called “A breakthrough-through the glass”- how to overcome the fear, plus he leads workshops in sales, marketing, market research, business plans, target marketing and customer service programs.


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